So in Sunday’s sermon, Pastor Steven challenged all us single folk to make a list of all the qualities that we will not compromise when finding that one person to spend forever and ever with. I didn’t really give it too much thought, because I think I have a pretty good idea of what I want in my husband, but tonight at small group we paired up and interviewed someone to find out what their perfect mate would be like. I paired with Erica, and we didn’t really do the activity. Ha ha. We just talked and bounced ideas off of each other. But listening to all the other girls go down their partners list of attributes really got me thinking. I have some serious standards my man needs to live up to. I haven’t put them to paper yet, so I suppose I’ll type them up here for any body and every body to read:
- First and foremost: He must be a Man of God. He’s got to be just as excited about God’s mission and plan as I am, if not more excited. He’s got be able to lead me spiritually and lift me up in my relationship with Jesus. He’s got to understand my commitment to the Lord and have the same amount of passion that I do. He doesn’t have to be a fellow Elevator, but it’d be a really great foundation. That’s what’s most important to me. If he can’t impact my relationship with God and lead me, he’s not the person I’m meant to spend all eternity with.
- He’s got to be good with kids. I want a big family, and he’s got to be down with that. Also, I’m very involved with the children’s ministry at Elevation, and it’d be amazing for him to share that joy with me. And if he doesn’t love kids, it ain’t gonna work.
- He’s got to be able to make me smile, all the time. Whether it’s making me laugh by being a huge dork or doing little somethings sweet that make me smile. If I’m sad or upset or stressed, I want him to be able to make me smile just by being him.
- Intelligence is very important. I don’t want to run out of things to talk about when we’re 97. If he’s dumb, the list of subjects he can talk about are very short. I intend to live a while, and I like to talk. And he’ll like it.
- He needs to have energy. I’m fast paced and I do a lot of things. He needs to be a little crazy. He needs to be rambunctious. I want him to be able to keep up with me. Jumping around from place to place, lifting other people up with his energy. That’s just very attractive to me.
- He has to have good eyes and strong hands. I’m going to look into those eyes for the rest of my life, and they don’t change with age. Eyes I can get lost in. And hands that know hard work. Hands that can fix broken things around the house. Hands that I love lace my fingers through.
- He’s got be in it for the long haul. Loyal. Committed. Willing to do whatever it takes and fix things when the break in our relationship. Honest and open. If you can’t address the problem, you can’t fix it.
- Last and certainly not least: He’s got to love me. At the end of day, I’m the girl he’s wants to look at and sleep next to every night.
I don’t think that’s an unreasonable list. I believe that there is a perfect match for every single person out there. There’s little things here and there that are preferences…taller than me, dark hair, attractive, close-ish to my age, strong, able to comfortably support me financially. If he’s not wealthy, it’s okay. And as long as he’s not over 25, we’re good to go. If he’s skinny and has blond hair, I have hair dye and a Bowflex. Ha ha. I’m not tall, so most guys are taller than me, I don’t think I have to worry about the short thing, but if I do, I can handle it.
Those eight things are all that really matter. That’s my prince charming.
